Overcoming Trauma – Part 2

child in trauma

 

If you remember from part one, our look at trauma is not the typical traumatic experiences such as being run over by a car, or being innocently shot (though certainly these also can be manged and healed through the Science of Mind), but it is rather, the trauma from our daily thoughts, actions and interactions with other people and life in general.  We will look at this topic more pragmatically in this blog.

 

When something traumatic happens, the left side of the brain is temporarily out of commission. This is the side that usually helps us make sense of events in an orderly, organized manner. This is the side that lets us know what is in the past, what is going on now, and what is in the future. It is also the side we rely on for solving problems. With this side of the brain temporarily out of the action, the right side of the brain stores the memory. One problem is that, to the right side of the brain, all time is here and now. That can cause a lot of problems when it comes to feeling as if a trauma that happened 15 or 50 years ago continues to be experienced in the brain as though it is going on now.  I believe that is why time doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds.

 

The right side of the brain stores traumatic memories in bits and pieces instead of storing it in the logical, linear way the left brain does. All of the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and stimulus information are stored without the story. Unfortunately, this can set up even non-threatening stimuli associated with the trauma like so many land-mines waiting to go off when the stimulus is encountered in the future.   We are a ticking timebomb!

 

Our brains are structured into three main parts:

  • the cortex (the outer surface, where higher thinking skills arise; includes the frontal cortex, the most recently evolved portion of the brain)
  • the limbic system (the center of the brain, where emotions evolve)
  • the brain stem (the reptilian brain that controls basic survival functions)

For us to be well-balanced, we need all three of these areas to be cohesive and operating consciously towards the same ends.  As thoughts arise, emotions are activated, and a decision is made based upon our hierarchy of needs.  The logical portion of processes and their outcome seem to determine whether we experience happiness or trauma.

 

Research shows that people who have experienced trauma often demonstrate abnormal blood levels of stress hormones, and the parts of the brain responsible for managing stress may not function as well as in people who have not been exposed to trauma.  There is also a decreased integration of the left and right sides of the brain following prolonged stress exposure that can adversely affect the ability to use logic and reason and can even result in poor problem-solving skills.

 

In the Science of Mind we would say that this very activity becomes stages of victim consciousness, where it feels as if everything is being done to us rather than us having dominion in our lives and creating our lives according to the goals and intentions we have for ourselves.

 

We may not be at fault (so to speak) for how our brains function based upon the ideas of trauma being brought forth in this article.  (What I don’t want to do is give you a way out so that you can say, “I don’t have any control over what keeps happening in my life!”  YOU DO!)  Following is some explanation that we can use to better enhance our understanding so that we can become proactive with making our post-traumatic healing.

 

In a study that I read, science is positing that “developmental delays, decreased cognitive abilities, learning disabilities and even lower IQ levels have been observed among those who experience trauma at a young age.

 

We owe our children healthy lives, and safe homes to grow up in.  The research is overwhelming around the impact that our adult behaviors and our interpersonal relationships with other people play a very important part in the health of the children in our lives.

 

Everything we say, everything we do, everything that we react to in the view of our children has an impact on them.  To develop loving strong healthy children, care should be taken to ensure that we are living from the highest expression of love possible.  There is so much going on in the world around each of us and our children, that it is most probable that they will see enough stuff and experience enough stuff out in the world (the world where we are not present in their experience) that it becomes our duty to maintain the highest approach, and the most loving approach to all our interactions with them.

 

Children are like huge living sponges, and they take in everything.  It is how they learn.  They mimic.  They develop their own patterns no matter how hard we try to develop healthy patterns within them.  Have you noticed?  So our job becomes living in a continuous state of grace, expressing loving words, supportive language, comforting interactions, and yet, providing the necessary care and discipline that children require so they can develop their own set of boundaries.

 

In the Science of Mind are many helpful affirmations for parents to help all of us live a more productive, and love filled life.   If you haven’t visited a Center for Spiritual Living, this may be a perfect opportunity.  If something in this blog reaches something inside of you, seek out the center nearest you.

 

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